Virtually every interaction with a patient can be categorized as either manipulation or ministry.
Manipulation is an expression of ego. To cause someone or something to conform to, or act in ways (even if it is in their best interest) that satisfies you. To control, rather than release. To impose, rather than facilitate. To exert influence for your personal gain.
Ministry is to serve without strings. To love without reciprocity or expectation. To accept without judgment. To honor the patient and their sovereignty, even when they make choices different from the ones you would. To assume a level of detachment that is only possible with clear boundaries.
When you care too much, you blur the boundary between ministry and manipulation. It’s like building a fence on your neighbor’s property. Instead of legal action, patients merely vote with their feet.