Your ability to influence others is proportional to how intimately you know yourself. If you aren't comfortable in your own skin, leading patients (or others) is impossible.
How do you get to know yourself?
Journal. Spend private time with yourself describing the events of the day. Put your feelings into words. Use words to explore your perceptions, worries, reactions and judgments. Only as you are able to assign language to what is so, will you be sufficiently present to inspire those around you.
De-mediate your life. Many of us use media as an avoidance strategy, especially television, a drug administered through the eyes that distracts and pacifies. Plop down in front of the boob tube and we can avoid confronting our shortcomings, disappointments and the dreams we aren't pursuing.
Want to be a change agent? Start with yourself. Like the safety demo. "Put on your mask first before assisting others."