Some say that happiness is the result of reality exceeding expectations. While lowering expectations would seem to enhance the likelihood of experiencing greater happiness, this is at odds with the perfectionism often exhibited among unhappy high achievers.
When the meal isn't spectacular enough; when the view from the hotel room isn't amazing enough or when the patient volume isn’t high enough, it prompts many to feel disappointed, cheated or let down. Just remember, you created the disappointment by setting an inappropriate expectation or manufacturing a goal that was unlikely to manifest. When some future event doesn’t go the way you projected it would, it's easy to feel dissatisfied and resentful. "I deserve better." "I expected better." Hear the entitlement?
What's missing of course, and the antidote to this self-made plight is acceptance and a profound dose of gratitude. When we embrace what is, and are thankful for it, everything shifts.
Getting patients to do something highlights the distinction between motivation and inspiration. Sure, you can use your limited social authority to command, nag or shame patients into action, but the effect is short lived and tends to attract only those easily manipulated to do your bidding--even if justified as being in the patient's best interest. Simply [...]
Which of your relationships is fear based?Fear-based relationships mean you consistently give, but your needs go unmet. Telling the truth might cause the person to leave. Or if you don't sacrifice, the relationship won't last. These are signs of an unhealthy relationship. If patients are the source of one or more of these symptoms, here [...]
"I have the best CA ever!" And to quote King Solomon, "This too shall pass."You're likely to have many chiropractic assistants. Each will bring their own special skills, perspective and attitude to your practice. Imagining that your mind reading, it-doesn't-get-any-better-than-this front desk CA will be around forever is a pipe dream. Actually, a hallucination.Why? Because [...]
Have you become a human doing?It's tempting to fall for the common belief that if you do this and that or "just say it the way I say it," that the busy, successful practice we want will actualize.Naturally, that's not how it works. What we say and do are simply effects. The cause? Who we [...]
What if your beliefs about patients are incorrect? What if patients who have been showing up in your practice were doing so for a different reason than you thought? What if there was a contingency in your community who actually “get” the nature of true health and have a distain for symptom treating? What if [...]
Here's way to think about the various symptoms which prompt patients to seek chiropractic care: symptoms are a language used by the body to communicate with its owner.It's a crude language to be sure. It could be pain that is sharp, dull, stabbing or throbbing. It could be a language that comes and goes or [...]
I was recently asked what the most difficult part of creating and maintaining a website for the thousands of chiropractors who use our sister company, Perfect Patients, is. “It’s probably not what you think,” I observed. “It’s not SEO, social media or even helping a client get past an occasional bad review. It’s getting chiropractors to permit us to portray [...]
#13 of 13 things every new patient should know: When you've had enough tell us so we can celebrate.Massive amounts of energy are wasted tracking down patients who have discontinued their care without saying goodbye. Fearful of your reaction, rather than thanking you for your help and excusing themselves from further care, patients simply stop [...]
#12 of 13 things every new patient should know: How long you decide to benefit is up to you. This is where chiropractors with poor boundaries or an inappropriate attachment to what patients do, get into trouble. Helping patients achieve their particular health goals, regardless of how modest, is a far more respectable professional objective than [...]